Sunday, September 14, 2014

Good Life, Bad Life

I have been away from the blogging world for about six months and during that time I suppose I got out of the routine of getting on the blog to write my thoughts and check for comments and emails.

When I announced 6 months ago that I would be taking a temporary leave of absense, someone left a comment asking me if I was going to jail.

No.  But the question made me laugh!

I was going through a very transitional time.  I was between jobs and was asked to move out from the family member I was living with.  I was honestly prepared to live in my car for a while.  Fortunately that never had to happen as family and friends were gracious enough to let me couch surf for a few months.  That was an interesting experience.

There has been more going on but it's not really revalent to talk about.  This is the Mormon411 blog and I wouldn't be writing this if I didn't have a thought on the subject, and my little pre-story fits in with what I am about to share.

I was invited to dinner with an LDS friend and her family and her non-LDS boyfriend who was investigating the church.  I didn't know it until I showed up, but there were also two LDS missionaries invited.  The boyfriend had been meeting with the missionaries and was moving away so the dinner was kind of a farewell party.

After dinner, the missionaries were asked to share a message and as I listened to what they were saying, I realized what a negative outlook Mormons have on the world.

As this boyfriend was moving away to go to school, the missionaries shared how he would have trials and hardships but by relying on Jesus Christ, he could make it through.  Maybe I'm being too critical, but I realized that I always hear this.  I always hear from Mormons how hard and terrible life is, and how only the church gets them through.  With them, it's always a focus on how hard life is and how horrible the world is.

Life is hard.  That's a fact.  I was unemployed and on the verge of being homeless.  However, I made it though without one single prayer or one single step inside a church.  I didn't rely on Jesus to get me through it. I relied on myself and the kindness of those who were willing to help me.

But I can honestly say that during this very hard time, I was happy!  I viewed it as an adventure.  I look back and am proud that I not only made it through, but had a great time doing it!  It didn't make me feel like turning to faith for reassurance.  It made me look inside myself.  It made me a stronger person, and neither Jesus nor religion had anything to do with it!

I have since secured a great job and place to live.  I have paid off over $10,000 in debt.  I have money in the bank, food in the fridge, gas in the car, a roof over my head, and a smile on my face.  Life really isn't about what happens to us.  It's about how we react to it.

I know, it really sounds like I'm tooting my own horn and patting myself on the back.  But that's really not what this is about.  It's about my belief that religion is completely unnecessary to make it through the hardships of life.  Personally, the lack of religion has made it easier!


Heather said...

Holy shitballs! You're back!

I'm happy to hear that you're doing well. Yes life can be very hard, and you're right, how we react to it is what matters. I need to learn this in my own life experiences. I tend to overreact to smallish things and under-react to large things. I need to realize that I'm on a tiny blue speck in the universe, and some things aren't that big of a deal.

I hope you'll blog every now and then, at least more than once in 6 months ;)

Mormon411 said...

Heather!! IKR??

Life is hard and we all make mistakes but the real mistake is not learning from them.

I plan to put up a post at least once a week :)

How have you been?

Brad said...

Welcome back!

Yep, life is full of ups and downs. I've been laid off from work twice in my life. The first time was a shock, I felt worthless. The second, several years later and some experience under my belt, I knew things would work out and I was less stressful and was able to enjoy time with my family.

An interesting point, the first time I was TBM, the second time, not. Religion had nothing to do with how I felt. No doubt I probably would have felt the same whether or not I was religious when I was laid off the first time. The second time, I had many more years of experience and I knew that I would find another good job. It was all about how I view myself during those times that made a big difference.

luksky said...

I have to agree 100% that life is better without religion! Since I let go of religion and the belief in "God" I am a much more relaxed person. I am responsible for the things that happen in my life and rely on myself and common sense for answers now. I now feel free and unbounded.

Heather said...

@Mormon411. I've been swell! Life is boring and drama free=bliss. =)

As you have read on my blog, we've gone through some employment ups and downs ourselves. Its never a good time, but it seems to always work out.

Elder Younger Brother said...

Unholy moly you are back! Welcome back to the world of stability. I'm glad you are okay after you suddenly leaving.